Dating and the single mom
For one thing, I am definitely not interested in somebody who wants to date me I’m breastfeeding. I also knew that it wasn’t going to be an issue until I was ready to be physically intimate with somebody. My baby’s mouth is the only one that belongs there right now.
And here’s the thing: I was most nervous about how to talk about sex and breastfeeding with a new guy I wanted to sleep with. Another thing is, I can’t be feeling all insecure about leaking milk.
Since becoming a mom, I’ve shed a lot of insecurity, and my new outlook is serving me well in my dating life.
Before I got pregnant, I would have thought that becoming a mom would have made things much more difficult; but because I am braver, the intimidating parts — even really sensitive subjects — don’t seem so harrowing.
If nothing else, it would just be funny to see if there was anyone I knew. One guy, I’ll call him “Jim,” was attractive, a few years older than me, and had never been married before.
I ended up swiping right on a handful of guys (signaling to them that I was interested), and most of them were matches. He had a good job, was kind of a foodie, and really into sports. The next guy, “Mike,” was pretty cute, a single dad, divorced, and also a few years older than me.
It’s definitely easier now to just dive in, and because the stakes of a long-term relationship are higher, I’m less likely to stick around too long for a guy who isn’t right for me. It makes sense that a single woman in her thirties would be curious about dating after that long.