Dating a girl 20 years younger
Okay, Evan, I agree mostly with your opinion on younger men/older women. I mean, I can see why an older man would want to date a younger woman – physically that is, but why would a 28-year-old woman want to date a man 45 or more? I can totally understand why older men go for younger women.
There’s no denying that they’re, for the most part, in better shape, with better skin, and less baggage from broken relationships.
But, when you’re dating someone almost 19 years younger than you are, the association is inevitably going to happen. Well, since my divorce, my experiences in the online dating world have been pretty disastrous, to say the least.
Every time I gave OKCupid a try, I specified my desired age range for a mate to be between 35 and 55 years old — and I’d get constantly barraged with messages from enthusiastic young 20-somethings looking to be my “cub.” The perception that I’m (supposedly) at my sexual peak seemed to be the prime motivation for these boys to reach out to me.
I asked my friend how old he was, to which she replied, “He’s in his early 30s.” Both of my husbands were a few years younger than I was, but I had never been with someone more than 10 years my junior.
I had been on a few dates with 30-somethings, but nothing really came of those.
If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age”, then you’re not immune to it yourself. And nobody has more choices than a 28-year-old woman. So if a woman finds it more appealing to just step into that world – to jump from the prolonged adolescence of the late 20’s into full-fledged settled-down womanhood – that could make sense.Not that it was very different from the responses I got from men my age — they were just far less eager and often downright aloof.